10 Things Your Shouldn't Say To Her!
Hello! We are back to another entry of Sex & Love!
This entry, I'm going to share my
personal thoughts on things you shouldn't say to ME! Or your female friends,
girlfriends, wife and mother!
1. FAT!
Or anything similar like: you gain weight, you should get a size
bigger, you should lose weight, or even, agree that they are fat!
Remember this theory:
Man + Woman = RELATIONSHIP
Woman + Weight = SENSITIVE SUBJECT
Woman + Question on Weight + Right
Answer (“You’re not too big” “you’re not too skinny” “Yeah you have put on some
weight but I don’t care” “I appreciate you for you”) = YOU'RE SAFE
Woman + Weight + Wrong Answer (“Yeah
when are you going gym?” “You sure you should be eating that?” “You need to
eat” “You know that don’t fit you right?”) = HELL
No matter how skinny or fat a female
is, in her mirror, she always think she looks like this:
Although Alex always send reminders/drop hints on my weight issues and agree that I am fat, I really appreciate his appreciation for me as a girlfriend and always say things that made me feel loved. If you really think SHE needs to lose weight, invite her to go exercise with you as a leisure activity instead of telling her to lose weight!
Smarter right?
This is how a smart boyfriend look
like:
Make your girl proud by being the "Smart" boyfriend.
2. YOUR EX-GIRLFRIEND(S)
No doubt women are mammals filled
with curiosity, there's always no need for you to talk or even compare
your girlfriend or your potential girlfriend with your ex(s).
Honestly, I'm a serious jealous pot!
So no matter whether you are my boyfriend or potential bf, I would not want to
know how well you have treated your ex(s), how she cheated on you or how great
she is on bed. (But if you are
my guy friends, I welcome you to share your experience :p)
But, if your girl asked about your
ex(s), be honest but do not go into details. If you know your ex(s) are better
than her, let her know you love her for who she is now, and that you do not
have any feelings for them (ex(s)) anymore!
Save yourself some trouble bros!!
3. SHE LOOK BETTER WITH MAKE UP
We know we do. But we still prefer
to sleep beside you without make up because it is good for the skin, and we do
not want to stain the pillow case. We put on make up to enhance our looks
usually because we are not confident enough with how we look bare faced. If you
wanna harp on it and sprinkle salts on the wound, then you gonna hurt the
girl's feeling even more!
Having make up on once in a while
during sex is good! But let her know you love her au natural look, while
helping her to ask your female colleagues whether they have any skincare tips
or products to recommend your girlfriend.
More practical right?
Anyway, not all girls are as lucky
as your favourite Korean celebrity who have perfect features and complexion
after their expensive plastic surgery and loads of skincare products.
Take a look at her:
SNSD's Taeyeon (rumoured)
4. HER PREVIOUS HAIRCUT IS
BETTER
Personally, I'm a person who make
rash decisions. Especially haircut or hair colour. So once I think that I have
decided, I would go for it and ask for opinions later.
Who wouldn't want praises instead of
criticisms after a haircut? She might get emotional again and blame herself for
making that stupid decision!
Let her know that she looks
refreshing with her new haircut or hair colour. But if you do think that she
looks way better with her long and straight hair, tell her that it would be
more feminine for her to have her old hair, while the new one let her "stand
out in the crowd".
Be tactful!
Do you think I look better in my
long or short hair?
Remember, don't answer that
question!
5. BRING UP PAST ARGUMENTS
This is call the "putting her
in your shoes!". Don't you hate it when she started to bring up the your
past wrongdoings and past arguments in order to make
her argument statements more solid than yours?
Don't you hate it when you are 3
years into the relationship and she is still bringing up the fight during your
2nd month together when you went to watch soccer instead of watching
"Madagascar" with her?
So my dear guys, please do not do
the same to her. You guys are supposed to be not as petty as us and be more
creative in your arguments!
6. IF YOU REALLY LOVE ME, YOU
WOULD..
DO NOT, I repeat, do not doubt her
love for you. It is as hurtful as having your girlfriend or wife criticizing at
the present you have spent time and effort getting for her.
No girl (at least me) would go into
a relationship without having love for her guy. I am afraid to be committed to
a relationship with a guy who I do not love/like or who I have a lot of things
that I despise him of. So if I am in a relationship with my
boyfriend, I would love him wholeheartedly.
I believe every women is the same.
Please do not hurt her by saying,
"If you really love me, you would.."
- have accompanied to my company
gathering instead of attending your best friend's wedding
- be able to tolerate my smoking and
drinking habits
- not ask me to quit these e.g
smoke, gamble, drinks etc.
the list goes on..
Do not be unreasonable, just like
you wouldn't want your girlfriend to be.
7. YOUR FRIEND'S BAD HABITS
I definitely love
gossiping, who wouldn't? But if your girlfriends, especially potential
girlfriend, have not met your group of buddies yet, DO NOT let her know how
rotten/playboy/abusive/smelly etc. they are. Unless you wanna warn her which
lecher to avoid.
I am a very easily influenced
person. So if you would to tell me how Mr A is a stingy, smelly and pervertic
man, I would form a very strong pre-impression of him and would not be able to
act natural in front of him.
Also, if you are gossiping to your
potential girlfriend, what does it says about your character?
Always think twice before spilling
the beans of your buddies. Be fair to them too!
Remember they are your brothers!
8. ANYTHING SEXIST
SENSITIVE!
Do not compare her with guys! Saying
things like, "that car is so slow, must be a female driver.." or
"what do women know?" would make your girl argue the topic about how
Venus is better than Mars or how noble women are etc. for the next 1 hour.
If you want to have a good chat over
a meal or during your long bus journey, do not bring up sexist topic that will
make the conversation awkward and her being aggressive.
9. ASK FOR PERMISSION
Get your fact right, a little tinge
of man chauvinist is good! Women generally prefer guys they like to make the
first move. Asking for permission sometimes kills the mood and surprise!
I remember when I was in Sec 3, my
boyfriend and I went on our first "date" when he send me home after
school. I was looking forward for him to hold my hands. Our hands were so close
and we kept "accidentally" touched each other! Instead of surprising
me with his hand holding mine, he kept asking whether he can hold my hand!
-.-" I was a shy 15 years old girl, how you expect me to say, "Yes
Please!"????
For couples, sometimes a little
seduction which leads to sex is a good night to spend. But when you are horny,
and all you do is ask "Do you wanna have sex?", "Can you give it
to me now?" is such a turn off!
Personally, I don't need 1 hour of
foreplay, but my boyfriend and I still enjoy the little romantic caressing
before sex!
So please, although it is good to
respect your girl, do not ask for stupid permission that might make the
atmosphere awkward and spoilt your next move!
10. SHE IS CRAZY!
Last but not least, the top of the
DON'T BE SENSITIVE list is not to say that she's crazy!!
Trust me, when I was in my
rebellious days, my mum really went nuts (crazy) when I call her CRAZY and
having MENOPAUSE!!
It is very insulting and would have
made an emotional female feel worst!!!
Most likely you would made her say " Since you think I'm crazy, let me show you what I'm capable of!!!"
I hope you have definitely learn a thing or two today. The above is from my point of view, but every girl is different! Some might be a combination of your worst nightmares!
Be warned!!!
IN A NUTSHELL..
Don't:
Compare..
Criticize..
Be Negative..
Be Sexist..
What else do you advice the guys not
to say?
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Sex and Love
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